Monday, March 30, 2009


She's amazing.....what a sweetie!!!!

So last night as I was standing in the kitchen completely overwhelmed by my feelings of how I was doing as a mom and wife, I thought about my three little kiddos and if what i was doing for them or with them was enough.
ENOUGH....."sufficient to meet a need or satisfy a desire; adequate"
I went into each one of their rooms to check on them at that moment and asked myself. what do i need to do to better myself as a person so I can give them one hundred percent of me,mom. I tend to look at other moms and think "wow, how do they keep it all in check and still have feelings of being enough for their families. some with 3, 4, and 5 kids. What, more than three how do they do it. I see their homes clean and their cars cleaned out, their kids hair done every time you see them and they are always early to church all the while the crock pot was turned on and rolls set out and dinner will be waiting, yummy, for them when they return. Their houses stay clean on the weekend and things are ready for the next week to start. (I know nothing is as it seems but man they are some pretty good fakers then :)
WHAT THE!!!! Then last night as i was standing in the kitchen talking to Brian, something we do on a regular basis, and I love the advice he sometimes "throws" at me! I asked him what it is that keeps him going on a task, through all of it!!! The beginning, middle and end. He is so good at what he does and sometimes I feel when he gets home that I have run and run and run all day long and at the end of the day you would have thought I sat on the couch watching Opera and eating bon bons all day. Although that would be YUMMY and full filling I know I have busted my "little" (I know, I daydream alot) booty all day long and at the end I am so tired I think I put sugar in when salt was asked for and vacuumed the lawn when it was supposed to be mowed. Am i making any sense.
I said "you are motivated by the fact that if you don't finish a job you don't get paid, then your business falters and your family starves and suffers. He said "Tif if you don't do your job as a mother and wife your family starves and suffers too" Wow, I knew that, but just hearing those words come from his ever fine lips, which I love to kiss on A LOT!!! IT struck me hard and got me thinking in a different way!!! (this is a little in sert that was amazing. makes me love my sweetie even more watch this) I am to hard on myself. Tif, chill a little, take it one day at a time. Just savor every day. It's that simple?, really?, no but if we take a deep breath and jump into motherhood and dive into wifery (is that a word?) we can do whatever is thrown our way. I want my kids to look back on their childhood and see a mom who was willing to go to the park when the dishes weren't done or the laundry was still on the couch waiting to be folded (ha ha, my towels are on my couch waiting to be folded and tucked snugly in my linen cabinets) I want them to look back and think "Yep, mom was ENOUGH"
I went in to their rooms and found them all off to dreamland, the best place ever, and had to capture that moment right then and there.
I loved it and can't wait to do this all over again tomorrow.
Wish us luck and good good luck to all you mom's out there. We're all in this together (WHAT, did i just high school musical that) You are Enough for your family.....always remember that!!!!love ya all

These babies mean everything to me!!!!! I wonder what is going through her tiny thought's right now!!!!! HHHMMM you never know

YUMMY!!!!! Look at those lips.....just delish


Steph said...

Okay, where do you find these "perfect" moms? I have had people come over and say, "How do you keep your house so clean?" Little did they know five seconds before they showed up I vaccumed, sprayed air freshner and threw everything in the other room on my bed. Had they looked down the hall or in one of the closets they would have been shocked. Some of us have appearences to keep up. Ha ha ha. Everyone struggles, Tif. Sometimes we have good days sometimes we have bad days but no one has it together everyday. You are doing great!
Love ya!

Steph said...

PS Today I took a nap. No reason, I just wanted a nap. IT WAS GREAT!
Oh, I also fixed my hair and makeup, and had a great FHE. The dishes are dirty, again. Once is my limit for doing those things each day. There is a load in the washer, one in the dryer and two in the living room. It is a work in progress, right?

Steph said...

Should I just make my own post? Ha!

Allred's said...

WOW, that was super deep for me, you really do think alot. I guess part of what helps me get things done, is that I just don't think. So I am one of those mentally retarted mom's on autopilot!! I've always thought you had it together!!

TheShumWAYS said...

Loved this post... Jeff actually emailed me to make sure I read it:) I have been having a lot of these same thoughts as of lately. I think Seth turning 8 this year is hitting me and hitting me hard! Am I being enough? One thing I am trying to do is go to bed with a clean house so I am not cleaning ALL day and not playing with the kids. I really loved this post and it said a lot of my thoughts

Cami X said...

I just need to say that when I look at the mom's that have commented, and the mom that posted this, I only see those great moms that inspire me and terrify me in the fact that one day I will have to keep up with you. But I am glad you posted this so other women can know they aren't alone in those thoughts, and to also give them that perfect mindset of what is really important.
And that IS a little booty!
You are amazing in every aspect of the word.

Sue said...

What wonderful posts your friends and family have written. Each of us have a day (or 100) when we feel those thoughts but you women are mothers to the chosen generation and why?! You made a convenant with Heavenly Father to do all you can and feel all these emotions so your children will learn all they need to at your loving side! I am in awe of you mothers at this time and the dark one also knows he can't break thorough your love and hard work. I am also glad you have each other!! This journey will never be easy but so worth it!!