Monday, May 10, 2010

How this special type of Mother is chosen......

Brynlee 2 hrs after birth NICU Banner Gateway
Did you ever wonder how the mothers of premature babies are chosen?

God is hovering over Earth, selecting His instruments for propagation with great care and deliberation. As He observes, He instructs his angels to take notes in a giant ledger.

Beth Armstrong, son. Patron Saint, Peter.

Marjorie Forrest, daughter. Patron Saint, Celia.

Finally, He passes a name to an angel and smiles. “Give her a preemie “

The angel is curious. “Why this one, God? She’s so happy.”

”Exactly,” smiles God. “Could I give a premature baby a mother who knows no laughter? That would be cruel.”

”But does she have the patience?” asks the angel.

”I don’t want her to have too much patience, or she’ll drown in a sea of self-pity and despair. Once the shock and resentment wear off, she’ll handle it. I watched her today. She has that sense of self and independence so rare and so necessary in a mother. You see, the child I’m going to give her has a world of its own. She has to make it live in her world, and that’s not going to be easy.”

”But Lord, I don’t think she even believes in you.”

God smiles. “No matter, I can fix that. This one is perfect. She has just the right amount of selfishness. “

The angel gasps, “Selfishness?! Is that a virtue?”

God nods. “If she can’t separate herself from the child occasionally, she will never survive. Yes, here is a woman whom I will bless with a child less than perfect. She doesn’t know it yet, but she is to be envied. She will never take for granted a spoken word. She will never consider a step ordinary. When her child says ‘mama’ for the first time, she will be witness to a miracle and know it. I will permit her to see clearly the things I see as ignorance, cruelty and prejudice and allow her to rise above them. She will never be alone. I will be at her side every minute of every day of her life because she is doing My work as surely as she is here by My side.”

”And what about her Patron Saint?” asks the angel, his pen poised in the air.

God smiles. “A mirror will suffice.”
My dear Friend Wendy has been documenting the life with her Little Timmy from the NICU and doing and amazing job at it!!! Though we wish for no one to ever have to experience this type of trial those of us who have have a bond that could never be broken!! We feel their pain and anguish and tears and happiness and triumps and setbacks like no other human being could feel them!! We are eachother's cheerleaders!!! Wendy and little Timmy I love you and keep you in our prayers daily!!!! Thank you for sharing this Wendy!!! You're strength amazes me!!!! It is a tough road ahead but know all the little moments you share with that precious baby one on one are making him stronger and stronger! When Brynlee was in the NICU they told me that the Kangaroo Kare was of the upmost importance for the strength of that little baby and they were right!! They know our smells and our sounds and that helps them to want to be stronger!!! I loved those tender moments!! I pray you get to take little Timmy home soon but know that his time in the NICU is preparing him!!! It's seems so far but really it will happen soon!!! Love you

1 comment:

Wendy said...

Thank, Tifani!

I just got back from the NICU and he is still doing well. It was a very long weekend for him, and us, but he is a little fighter. So hard to believe he'll be 3 weeks old tomorrow!

You are so right - there really is a special bond between NICU parents. It's bittersweet in a way to walk through the hospital doors late at night and go in with someone else wearing a matching NICU band.

So desperately missing the Kangaroo Kare, but tonight's nurse said I might get to hold him tomorrow, although they may have to up the morphine to allow me to do so so I might hold off a few more days. =(

So glad that Brynlee is home and doing well! Much love, Wendy